Susanne and I came from a sexually silent textile’ world. This issue of sexuality was just about non-existent in family discussions. We can not attribute the sexual silence in both our families on a commonly shared anti-sex culture nope! Susanne grew up a continent and ocean away from me. She lived in a sexually liberal, non-religious, middle class family in the acreage of FKK (free body culture) Germany. I grew up in an ultra-conservative, religious, middle class family in rural Upstate New York, near Ithaca in the Finger Lakes. Remarkably, in neither family, liberal or conservative, was the word sex uttered in polite company.
Sex education in her family came in the form of a pill (the pill). In Germany, a girl was quietly handed the pill at puberty because it was assumed that sex is what you are doing. Whether she wanted it or no actual normal boyfriend would insist and it was her job to give it to him if she needed a social life. Pleasing the boyfriend in this way is peculiarly patriarchal for this type of liberal family. What a superficial, oppressive view of sex merely give it but don’t forget the pill. That was the version of in the liberal German culture.
On the other hand, in my own old-fashioned family, all things sex was only anathema. One did not talk about sex other than the single obligatory birds and bees talk which was more confusing than helpful. It was supposed that healthy sex would only occur naturally once you had been wed. No need for parents to speak or teach anything about it as the procedure for osmosis was assumed operating for sex education.
Silence was the lowest common denominator regarding sexuality in both our cultures. Generally the most terrifying, most contentious issues are the ones that don’t get talked about. So, silence, in just about everything, goes together with uncertainty, fear, misunderstanding and insecurity. When people are whispering behind your back, you don’t know what they’re saying and therefore it must be bad! Yup, the subject of sex is not any different. The worst thing parents of all backgrounds can do in regards to sex is to remain silent. Most parents can’t get past their own sexual and body acceptance hangups and as a result, they end up passing them on to their children through the deafening sounds of sexual quiet.
Comprehending sexuality, having healthy body approval and ultimately healthy sexual relations is not a issue of liberal vs. conservative cultures both camps seem equally scared of it. and relationships has to do with accurate body acceptance and unconditional love. It gets beyond the foolish embarrassments. One has to be raw, true, nakedly vulnerable to educate and learn about real sexuality. This approach transcends superficial, societal, political, or zealous religious alignments and lifestyles such as “conservative” or “liberal.”
Sex is one of the most bantered about issues, but the least understood. Behind all of society’s sexual sound is an astounding vacuum of meaning. The silence is maddening. For us, it translated into serious inhibitions that prevailed in our union for years.
Quiet is a shroud of negative mystery. It foments anxiety, remorse, shame and misunderstanding. It wasn’t until we became naturists, got nude, accepted our bodies, our sexuality and that of others that we started to fully comprehend and drop those damaging inhibitions that had been holding us back for years. Dropping these inhibitions is a procedure. It’s liberating. It’s what allowed us to begin anew; the growth of a considerably richer, deeper satisfying sexuality in our own relationship and ultimately a renewed union covenant. We fell in love again.

You’ll find nudist naturist beach of people who are suffering from all types of inhibitions. Many have problems about their bodies, their sexuality, their lack of independence and fulfillment. They’ve been prisoners of these inhibitions stamped into them by sexual silence, negative sexual teaching and in some cases – sexual abuse. This happens despite all the sexual sound and the abundantly available nudity and pornography in our culture now. There seems to be a gigantic vacuum of real love, real recognition, actual kindness, and actual fulfilling sexuality.
So, when folks consider trying naturism it’s not as easy as merely getting naked. Their reality is like onion skins multi-layered. They understand something is missing, hidden under the layers, but they do not know what. Against this emptiness, naturism actually symbolizes something different, something optimistic.